I would have appreciated a heads-up on a few things. What wisdom do you have to share?
by Aleeza Ben Shalom for aish.com
I
learned the ropes of dating on the fly, and somehow I made it to the
chuppah. I sure would have appreciated a heads-up on a few things. To
make your dating process a little sweeter, here are three concepts that I
wish I’d known when I was dating.1. Like attracts like
My husband was given really great advice when he was dating: “Men and women are already different enough. Find someone you have something in common with.” After 11 years of marriage, I concur – men and women are different. And the more you have in common, the easier it will be to adapt to married life.
Yes opposites can attract, but they sometimes have a challenging time staying together. Don’t misunderstand me: there will be differences between you and your spouse. No matter how alike you are there will definitely be enough ways in which you are different. But different is not the same as opposite. Over time you will hopefully come to appreciate and value those differences. But don’t go looking for someone so different from yourself.
If you really want a super spouse, make sure you’re super too (inside and out). Like attracts like. Take a minute to look in the mirror. What positive traits and qualities do you see? In what ways are you great? Notice your greatness. Notice it not because you are egocentric, but rather because you are trying to identify your other half. By identifying the first half of the soul mate – yourself – you’ll be better equipped to search the world for your super spouse.
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